You can hear your parents arguing one night while you lay in bed.
They’ve had a few disagreements before but nothing like this. This time their voices rise louder and you hear them say more hateful things.
You’re frozen stiff in your bed with uncertainty. The next thing you know, you can barely hear them say that they are done and want a divorce.
Your heart takes a steep drop.
How can your mom and dad just leave each other like that? After all the family vacations you had together and things your parents taught and helped you with… all the good moments with them together.
An uncomfortable feeling that your life will never be the same settles in.
Your home is now broken to pieces…
Many of you can relate to the situation I’ve described in one way or another. A broken home is the result of whatever tragedy may have happened in your family.
What if one of your parents cheated on the other? I bet you feel torn between them because you love them both and yet feel betrayed by the one who did it.
Maybe one of your parents was abusive and you feel trapped in your own home. It causes you to act up outside of the house and get into trouble. Or you become very timid and hardly talk to anyone.
Not to mention, all of the new problems that could come into the picture once you have step-parents and siblings.
The family situation can get really messy – really fast.
If you come from a broken family or are experiencing conflict within your home now, how do you feel? Probably confused, hurt, resentful, angry, stressed, and insecure.
It seems your whole life has been uprooted and misplaced.
God knows how you are feeling
God understands your torn emotions over your family’s circumstances.
If your father cheated on your mother, you saw your mother’s tears and feel the utter shock and betrayal. But you love them both and try to deal with the separation in your family.
God understands your emptiness from a mom who left you at birth. Your sadness from never knowing her. The bitterness you feel once you learn that drugs were more important to her than you were.
God even sees the hostile home you grew up in.
He knows about the mom or dad who abused you. He knows your hopelessness of being stuck. Your stress. Your torment. Your unhappiness.
But the pain will not last. Your torment will not continue.
God has a plan for your life…
“For I know the plans I have for you… plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
This world we live in is not perfect. There is trouble everywhere you turn.
It’s a fallen world we live in now, yet God still has a grand plan for your life. He cares about you and His plan for you is good.
You can’t help what has happened in your life.
Some people ask ‘Why can’t God stop the bad things from happening?’ It’s important to remember that God loves and cares about you.
And when you are in pain, God feels those same emotions.
“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”
God cares about what happens to His children and He will raise you up out of your terrible circumstances. Most of the time He will use your ugly past to shape your beautiful future.
Our Father in heaven is so patient with us and loves us unconditionally.
Consider how quickly your parents can fall out of love with each other. Yet God will never stop loving you.
When your family has crumbled, God is your foundation to rest on.
If your family has always been dysfunctional leaving you with pain, God will carry you through it and comfort you.
The world isn’t perfect yet but He is still there for you right now.
“Come to me all you who are weary and burdened, I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
God has never left you and will never leave you. At times it may feel like He isn’t there. You are struggling and don’t know where to go for relief.
He wants you to come to Him.
Like the verse above says, ‘Come to me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.’
God can give you that needed peace in the storm. The storm may not go away now, but He can help you through it.
It is your decision to come to Him.
He will not force His way into your life if you do not want Him there. But He has watched over you all of your life and patiently waits for you to come to him. Deuteronomy 4:29 says:
“But if from there you seek the Lord your God, you will find Him if you seek Him with all your heart and all your soul.”
Are you at a point in your life where you don’t know who to go to for help? Consider taking a moment to reach for your Heavenly Father.
Even if you don’t know how to pray – that’s ok. He knows you and He knows your heart. He knows everything about you and knows your pain.
He will hear you if you reach for Him with all your heart and all your soul.
How do I know this? Because I have reached for Him and He was there. An instant peace washed over me and I was no longer afraid.
Will you come to Him?
If you want to be closer to God and know who He is, I encourage you to read His Word the Bible.
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I hope this blog helped you. Next time, I’ll dig into the issues around bullying and violence.
Written by Sarah Sloan
Team Leader for Warrior Arise!